Dungaree Beach, Subic Bay
Two pit stops, six are-we-near-alreadys and three hours later we finally arrived in Subic, home of this year's International Triathlon. The kids were more than happy to adopt it as their playground for the weekend. Pappy and Mac Daddy were all set to make it their battleground.
On Sunday, the Dads were up at the crack of dawn to brave the waves, attack the hills and pound the pavement. The rest of us got up shortly after eager to cheer from the sidelines. Somewhere in between our "GO, DADDY GO" I got to thinking about my other role as head cheerleader to Mak and Tato.
Mak and Tato, our mini cheering squad
The article says loving, encouraging and supporting our children is good. Praise isn't. The more we praise, the more the child begins to rely on it. Rather than boosting their self-esteem we create an even bigger dependence. So i guess no more "Good job, Mak, for only biting Tato's left ear and not both" (Kidding, of course) I see the wisdom but don't agree with every single point. You can read all about it and make your own judgements here.
In Common Sense Parenting, Ray Burke and Ron Herron talk about using effective praise - specific praises as opposed to the usual "Great" and "Good Job". You point out good behavior and your child understands why. "Did you see how happy Seb was that you shared your blocks?" "I saw how you helped Nicola pack away the toys."
This thing called parenting is getting trickier by the day but these I know for certain:
1. Too much of a good thing isn't always a good thing.
2. Balance, balance, and balance is always key.
3. I will encourage more than praise but will not kick myself if i hear myself saying "Good Job"
1 1/2 kilometers in open water, 40 kilometers of pedaling and 10 kilometers of literally hitting the ground running later, we happily watched them cross the finish line.
baby bear takes pappy to the finish! chicha trying to catch up. the mak-tatos cheer!
No need to be stingy here. I will give credit where it is certainly due. Good job, Pappy and Mac Daddy! Thank you for inspiring us to set goals and achieve them. Thank you for showing our little ones that hard work does pay. Thank you for making us all proud... And a bit misty-eyed.